Saturday dash...

From morning to night Saturdays often feel like a mad dash at our home.

Today we got the whole house picked up. Bedrooms were put in order. My linens were changed, the children will have to wait until Monday. Dishes were done and the dishwasher was run, and emptied. It is ready to be loaded again, and as in most big families, there is already a sink of dishes to load in it. The children had a birthday party, which required a quick store trip to get a present. The party was great but water was involved. So the children returned soaking wet and took early baths before Sunday...so my morning would be easier tomorrow. Then they slipped into PJ's and I told them the rest of the afternoon could be reserved for movies and games. They are keeping entertained. I swept and scrubbed the kitchen, entry and hall floor on my hands and knees...because birthday parties with pina coladas=sticky floors! But man those pina coladas were YUMMY!

Daddy is off working out and I just hit the shower and got dressed...Finally! My neighbors probably wondered if I would ever get out of the ugly house dress they had already seen me in yesterday ;)

Now I am waiting on my honey to get home, cleaned up and we will get the sitter so we can have some needed time ALONE! Just for a bit, then we will head home to try and get a good night sleep...because SUNDAY...is a pretty busy day around here too. (different busy, but busy none the less).

All in all, it has been a great day so far! I love Saturdays, something about them makes me feel so accomplished and ready for the next new week!

#254 Reason I see the hand of Heavenly Father in my life...Saturdays are the chance he gives us to put the last week to rest, whether it was good or bad, and start the new week fresh! I love the chance for a new week!

Make it a great day! Only YOU can!

The extraordinary story and Lady Di...

Tomorrow I will try to go back and write about the details I learned on how to make a fantastic overnight party...But I have to write about this tonight...because it just keeps coming to my mind.

Before I went away to school and met my husband. I had a best friend that was of the male gender. We would watch late night shows after work, eat snacks and talk about everything. Cheers and Mash were a must and we laughed, cried and shared. I LOVE being married, but I do miss some of the male friends I lost along this new journey of wife and mother that I embarked on so many years ago.

Anyway, this dear friend sent me some beautiful flowers to celebrate a special occasion. On August 28th the flowers arrived. They were long stemed and a gorgeous pink. The next morning they were dead, they had totally killed over. It was complete craziness since they had water and the house wasn't too hot. I took them to the florist and the florist came back to the counter with a pale face. I will replace them, I have never seen anything like it. Do you know what they were? I said no. He replied, they were called Lady Di's. They were named after Lady Diana and they died the day she died. I just stood their and took the thought of it all in. He replaced the roses with a different kind and they lived the good steady 9-10 days that roses should live during summer heat. (I have since learned that Costco roses can live 2 full weeks...no doubt where my husband buys roses now ;)

But here were these beautiful flowers. They carried the name of the beautiful Diana. And almost in utter reverance of her life...they wilted. Diana's loss was saddening to me. Two boys left behind, so sad. I guess I have thought of it a lot this week with all the news and the paparazzi swirling around the newest royal couple. Some say, this is their life they should live with it. But should anyone be dealt the hand Diana was dealt. I do not know how the men that were chasing them that night for photos live with themselves. But I do know that the very flowers that carried her name, could not stand another day on earth, when the princess's light was dimmed too early. May she rest in peace. And may her son that just wed be blessed with real and true happiness, joy and prosperity that far surpasses the hurts of his younger years and the tragedy of losing his beloved mother.

#255 Reason I see the hand of Heavenly Father in my life... Little things that happened to us...that bring so much perspective into the massiveness of eternity and our little but important part in that eternity.

Make it a great day! Only YOU can!

A little Email: And my passion getting away with itself...

My friend sent this email to me today...He is always sending me information to make me think. It was titled: A simple, clever way of putting it...And it reads as follows. After reading it I typed my response and hit reply without a second thought. But just for the record, that is because I actually think about all this often and my strong opinions didn't need to be mulled over, I knew just what I wanted to say. You may not agree. I am not offended. It is a free country, full of free thinkings and free speech, isn't that grand! From my friend: I need your advice. I have a relative who is in financial trouble. He makes $50,000 a year, but he spent $74,591 last year, and his prospects of making $50,000 this year look kind of bad. There's a good chance he will get a pay cut. Unfortunately, he’s been overspending for quite a while and has charged $295,632 on credit cards. He’s been lucky enough to get low teaser rates, and when those have expired, he’s been able to transfer the balances to other low-rate cards. So he keeps charging $24,591 per year beyond his income. If he can’t keep rolling over his debt at super low rates, the interest will quickly eat him up. But, that's not his worst problem. He convinced his family he was a great investor. His parents gave him a portion of their income for many years, and he promised he would make regular payments to them and cover their medical care when they got too old to work. The problem is, he spent all the money. He also has dependents who are poor, and he promised to help them out, too. Some of his relatives are living in Ecuador and are dependent on the money he keeps sending them every month. To cover those promises, he should have $2,372,953 sitting in a bank account earning an interest rate that keeps up with inflation. But the money is all gone. So what should he do? Well, his Republican friends, who say they are responsible with money, have decided he must really cut spending to get things under control. There are lots of things he can live without, so they say he should reduce spending by $1,292 per year. His Democrat friends say that’s too much. They feel it would be a great hardship for him to cut spending that drastically, so reducing it by $137 should be about right. So here’s the picture: $50,000: Income $74,591: Expenses $24,591: Deficit $295,632: Short-term revolving debt at artificially low rates $2,372,632: Unfunded promises $1,292: Republican friends budget cuts $137: Democrat friends budget cuts So, what does the future look like for my Uncle Sam? Do you think he can keep going like this much longer? What about his family especially those living in Ecuador who are counting on the promises he made to them? Do you see any possible solution other than bankruptcy? TO ALL THIS I REPLIED: Ahh...I got trapped in the idea and didn't realize til the end what this was about. My husband and I try very hard to put our house in order. We have tried to prepared for retirement, bought a home with a mortgage that we could afford and would not have to lay on someone else. We live frugally and have cheap dates and the children wear hand me downs from cousins. We don't have debt from credit cards rolling over monthly. We learned from mistakes/or misfortunes of our parents and though we are not perfect at this we are trying. We have a generation of ME's and I's and NO delayed gratification. My social stratification teacher stood at the front of the room one day almost yelling at us...If I can teach you one thing it is "DELAYED GRATIFICATION, DELAYED GRATIFICATION, DELAYED GRATIFICATION!!!" That stuck with me. It was the greatest thing I learned in college. Before we got a larger TV (we had a 13 inch TV) we paid off the car. Before we got a house, we paid all debts, student loans, credit cards(didn't really have much maybe $300)...etc. But I live in a society where friends of mine have $500,000 houses they can't afford. They have motorcycles, boats, big SUV gas guzzlers, and TV's 1/2 the size of my living room wall. They pay $200/month for cell plans (Ryan and I together pay $90). They pay $150-200/month for Cable TV...we have bunny ears. I don't feel like I lack anything because my kids don't have DS's or ibox, or itouches...although our Oldest Son did save all his money birthday, allowes etc, and then asked Santa and mom and dad to pay the other half of an iTouch for Christmas. He is allowance to play it when schooling is done and only for limited times. But HEY...he earned most of it. And we didn't compensate at Christmas...he got a couple little things and ONE package...very small with the iTouch. He was happy with it though and still is...I believe partly because he worked so hard to help earn it. He is careful with it and cautious. He KNOWS its value and that value is a WHOLE year of earnings and birthday money and ALMOST all of Christmas. I bet it lasts quite awhile. I see kids that crack their iPhone and mom and dad replace it the next day. What is that? And kids with cell phones at age 8...don't EVEN get me started on that subject. We are growning a garden. WHY? We can afford the produce for sure. And the soil, planters, etc...weren't cheap. But our kids help work the garden, they help plant, harvest, water... and that work ethic is PRICELESS!!! As YOU know! There is something wrong with our society, but it doesn't start in Washington. It starts at home. People need to stop teaching their children that the government OWES them something. Parents shouldn't pay for all of college. That is a load of crap. Like the iPhone that parents buy, if children don't invest in their own education, don't work, don't help pay their way, they will not appreciate it as much. Thus the hoards of college graduates out of work and trying to FIND themselves. Sorry, this all hits a little nerve with me as you can see ;) I think the problem starts at home. We won't heal the nation until we heal the family structure. And until we start holding ourselves accountable. It is so easy to go bankrupt now that everyone is doing it if they get back up against a wall. They consumer spend themselves into the ground and then can't make the mortgage. Shame on them...AND UTAH is the worst state of all for that. It is a crime and a sin in my opinion, and morally wrong to spend and spend and then when it doesn't work out...walk away. I am not talking about legitimate reasons. I have a family member that started a business with all of their retirement money when they switched jobs. They did the market research, they worked and worked. But they just couldn't get the business off the ground. They lost everything and had to file bankruptcy and start over. I am talking about the shopper with the Nordstrom habit, that writes her/his debt off that I end up paying (well my husband does)...I work hard, but for free. And another thing...I get SO sick of employed people making stabs and jabs at moms that WORK at home...not at paid jobs, but at raising upstanding citizens. If my children listen to what I am teaching them daily, they will never be dependent on society. They will be productive and hard working, they will serve fellow men and country. And my "free" days of labor will have been worth far more than, the money some moms made while sending the kids to day care. Not everyone has the liberty and freedom I do to stay home, but the ones that can and choose NOT too...shame on them. They are doing the nation, and their children a disservice!!! And I want to take the time to applaude the REAL single mom's who do it on their own and work hard to provide and to give their children the best education in being loving, caring and responsible. One in particular knows who she is...and I frankly think she ROCKS!!! Hope I didn't offend anyone, but I call them like I see them. #256 Reason I see the hand of Heavenly Father in my life...He has given me this burning desire to raise my children with love, compassion and even more patience than I thought I could ever muster. I praise him, and in the words of a Christian song I love... MY GOD is an AWESOME GOD! Make it a great day! Only YOU can!

S.T.A.R....

Well this week is standardized testing. My two oldest children are testing this week. The #3 doesn't need to test yet. It is always funny to me how different children are, how differently they react. #1... is FREAKING out...a total perfectionist, and when she got 85% and 93% on the practice tests, acted like the sky was falling. Then #2...got 99% on math practice and 85% on Language Arts...and his attitude is "whatever..."

I will be glad when Friday afternoon is here and testing is OVER!!!

I can't wait for summer to get here this year. I can't wait for our summer library trips where we come home laden with books that people can't get through fast enough while they race with old records to see how many they can read in one summer. I can't WAIT!!!

I am grateful I can read...I love to read a good book. I haven't jumped on board the "kindle" yet because I LOVE the feel of a good book in my hands. I love the motion of turning pages and the smell of NEW BOOK. I also love the chance to get old books from used book stores at great deals. Recently I picked up some Dr. Seuss sets for a steal and they have been current favorites at our house. Teach a child to read, it is the gift of a lifetime! And that gift will keep giving and giving to them.

#257 Reason I see the hand of Heavenly Father in my life... The wonderful inspiration for all the wonderful books! I just LOVE it!

Make it a great day! Only YOU can!

It's good to be loved...

Thank you for the offers of help! I have been so sick and feeling quite yucky. But the doctor that once told me Extra Vitamin C just doesn't work...well I think he is a quack. I have pounded extra Vitamin C today and I am feeling remarkably better. The hot Lemon and Honey Tea and cleaning of my nasal passages worked well too, I am sure.

I just want to say thank you for the love, and words of support and even offers of help. Today was such a better day than yesterday. Still not perfect, but better! I hope to be back to almost 100% by tomorrow or Thursday! The kids are freaked out about STAR testing this week. I always tell them that I don't care how they do, as long as they try to do their best. But I have two little perfectionists and they want every question right. I can't wait until #3 comes along, I can see him totally NOT caring.

Well, I should probably get a good night's sleep and let my body heal.

#258 Reason I see the hand of Heavenly Father in my life...The Love and Support of good friends, and giving me a husband that cooks...his ham and bean soup was out of this world tonight! Yum, Yum, Yum...I did make the ham that went in it though ;)

Make it a great day! Only YOU can!

A day....

Today was a day...

I woke up with a sore throat...

I have a sweet husband that let me take a two hour nap.

I shouldn't even be up but I had to write something.

So here is my advice for the day. Spring is here...lots of allergens in the air. Take your vitamin C, exercize, and rest! Then maybe you won't get sick like I have this week, while burning the candle at both ends.

#259 Reason I see the hand of Heavenly Father in my life...he allows us to have trials...like today, so that we can appreciate our life. Today I am grateful for the health I usually have!

Make it a great day! Only YOU can!

Easter! He lives!

On my mission, the mission President would often say, Without Easter, there would be no celebration of Christmas. We love eggs and we love presents. But my husband and I also work very hard to instill the REAL meaning of Christmas and Easter in our children's hearts. Both Holidays are about GIVING and RECEIVING. But they aren't about Receiving presents and Giving Eggs...It is the opposite. They are about giving during Christmas. Like the wisemen brought gifts to the Christ child, we all can offer gifts of ourselves to the Savior and our Heavenly Father. We can love, lift, serve, mourn with those that mourn, comfort those that stand in need of comfort. True religion is not putting others down, or finding fault with beliefs. It is building on common ground, it is lifting, loving, and serving. So at Christmas we should think MORE of giving than of receiving. Easter however is VERY different. Easter SHOULD be a time of receiving. We should receive the Savior Jesus Christ into our hearts and our lives. We should receive the gift of his resurrection and His atoning sacrifice. The price was already paid for the present. It is up to us to open and apply it daily. I am so grateful for the gifts that have come into my life. But no gift out shines out does the gifts of Easter. The babe in Bethlehem would have been just another child of God, like all of us...if it had not been for his atoning sacrifice, his suffering, death and glorious resurrection. For all of it I am humbled and I am grateful.

My dad was cleaning out an old computer and found this poem. I don't know when I wrote it, but I thought I would share it. I hope you all had a beautiful Easter. And no matter how differently we all celebrate the day, I hope inside you find a peace in the promise of the resurrection!

#260 Reason I see the hand of Heavenly Father in my life: The Glorious Resurrection of His only begotten Son, Jesus Christ.

I feel the spirit gently comfort me

And wounds that others could not see

Are bandaged up with loving care

Reminding me the Savior is there

He answers us when'er we ask

No matter how small or large the task

It may not be what we wish to hear

But soft and kind he will draw near

And give us direction from above

Lifting us up with his constant love

Teaching us each what we can do

As covenants weekly we renew

As we reach out to one in need

We'll see the fruit of this seed

Giving service great or small

Following the Savoir of us all

Being an example of his life

Helping others through strife

Looking outward heals our heart

Making someone else feel part

Christlike service is the best way

To feel forgiveness every day

by: me ;)

Make it a great day! Only YOU can!

Color me Purple!

Tonight tops the charts of quite possibly one of the 10 best nights of my life! The day was busy and hectic. It was filled with important things to do. Good things, and even fun things. We started with the local Easter Egg Hunt...which ended up being a little bit of a bummer compared to dad's company egg hunt...so we might not make this a tradition, but they did have fun.

We survived Costco...ME and all FIVE of my children. I even had a gentleman stop me to say how well behaved they were and how impressed he was. I assured him they aren't always this saintly, but that I surely appreciated the compliment. But truly, I have been blessed with pretty well behaved children (IN PUBLIC)...I attribute this to the promise of a reward...of some sort...if behavior merits it. The reward today was going to be...COLORING EGGS!

We quickly came in from Costco and my sweet daughter and I made sandwiches for a platter that was going to the church. A family in our congregation tragically lost their daughter. I don't know them personally, they haven't been in many years, but the congregation reached out in an outpouring of love and I believe they felt it. It reminds me of the miracle of the loaves and fish...because literally baskets full were taken home by the family after feeding a couple hundred people and then church members were sent home with the rest. I am grateful to be among people who answer the call and mourn with those that mourn.

After this was completed, we got dressed and headed to my little niece's baptism. She is just younger than our #2 child and so we just saw them last Sunday. The family all gathered together once more and it was beautiful!

We came home and got some take out and sat around the table talking. Then mom made a last minute dash for the store. As I was leaving my oldest said, MOM, what about EGGS? I had thankfully already boiled them. (3 dozen!) So I told her if she got the table ready we would do it as soon as I got home. I went quickly and returned to a neatly laid out table. Dishes were put in the sink and the dye coloring boxes were opened and sorted.

We had the best time, minus baby who was asleep already (probably a blessing this year!...I am NOT super human ;) The children kept saying things like this:

Mom, Thank you so much!

Mom, this is awesome!

This is So Cool!

I bet NO other mom does this (I said, I sure hope every mom does ;)

Mom, this is the best family time ever.

We did have a great time. Those who know me WELL, know that messes are NOT my thing. Neither is MUD, SLIME, FOOD COLORING, ETC! My OCD manifests itself in times like these and I get crazy anxious, controlling and kind of nuts. BUT I AM PLEASED TO SAY...I DIDN'T! I know, stop the press, crazy huh! I didn't. It was great. I have dye ALL OVER MY HANDS...and I am not freaking out. When it was all done I did have a small anxiety thing going on, but I got over it while doing dishes! And all is well.

The next part will astound my TFF (true friend forever) D.L. I had laid out an old table clothe for them to color the eggs on. So we took the dye that was left and darling daughter had an idea...She actually said, Mom, I have an idea...naw, never mind you would never let us... To which I responded, tell me I might. She continued, we should use the dye that is left and paper towels and color the table clothe. So GUESS WHAT? We have a NEW "HAPPY SPRING" Table clothe. And I think it turned out really cool. What a night, what a great great great night. I felt my mom close tonight. She LOVED to dye eggs with the children. It wasn't the same without her here. But it sure was fun, and we are making memories. She would be proud...is proud, I know she is!

#261 Reason I see the hand of Heavenly Father in my life...He gave me my beautiful children to help me lighten up and be a better person. Thank you!!! Thank you!!! Thank you!!!

Make it a great day! Only YOU can!

Movie Night and Things that Grow...

Today was jam packed with homework, computer time, pancakes made by darling daughter, lots and lots and lots of planting...6 peppers, 4 tomatoes and a transplanted squash. I got a bit of a sun burn, but other than that it was just one of those sweet days. Dishes done. Laundry in progress. Weekend finally here. I love days like this where so much gets accomplished and you just fill FULL...Full of happiness, full of accomplishment, full of joy!

When my children do their homework, clean up around the house, and do their chores we have weekend movie night. So we headed to a local REDBOX...LOVE me some REDBOX!!! And you can even find the one closest to you with the movie you want and hold it all online. The whole idea is magnificent. And I guess I am guilty of the corruption that sunk blockbuster...but at $1.09 for a DVD, can you blame me? I guess you can, but oh well!

The movie wouldn't have been my first choice..."Space Chimps"...but the boys are happy. And darling daughter is watching Secretariat. A gift from one of her grandmas this week. So everyone is happy. I have laundry to fold so I will be watching the latest Survivor episode! Go Boston Rob!!!

#262 Reason I see the hand of Heavenly Father in my life...EASTER! Happy Easter Weekend everyone! I am so thankful for this time of year, For the Savior Jesus Christ, and for His Atonement, which gives us the opportunity to live again, and to be forgiven. I can't wait to see my mom! I felt her close today...must be the gardening, I am sure she is over my shoulder helping. She had a green thumb! ;)

Make it a great day! Only YOU can!

Again...

Dealing with hives again today :(
Doctor appt. in the morning!

#263 Reason I see the hand of Heavenly Father in my life...Modern medicine...hope they can help!

Make it a great day! ONLY YOU CAN!

Sorry...no long post today! Just one of those days! I know YOU understand! ;)

Sweet Success!!!

Today we had "Brinner"...Breakfast for dinner! YUM!

We had potatoes with peppers, onions, some dill seasoning, and ham. And then scrambled eggs with cheese and CHIVES...FROM MY GARDEN! I said to the children, the chives are the ones we grew, WAY TO GO! They said, "Chives???" I said, Yeah the green yummy things in the eggs. They all ate them and said yum. They don't know chives are onions. I have some that "don't like" onions...but guess what...TONIGHT EVERYONE liked Chives! :) It was AWESOME! And I was pleased as a pumpkin to be eating something that we grew (With God's help of course).

#264 Reason I see the hand of Heavenly Father in my life...Things GROW!!! What a miracle!

Make it a great day! Only YOU can!

Date Night...

I don't always get a weekend date night...But my darling husband is very aware of my need for adult time. And more specifically time with him. We had a wonderful night. We picked out and ordered a wood, laser engraved mail box...check out this company Laser Werx. I am so excited to get back the final product.

Then we headed to the closest Lowe's to grab some things for the garden. And stopped by El Pollo Loco for a couple things off the dollar menu.

We came home to #4 with hives all over him. Poor Baby. After some benedryl and a cool bath he is sleeping again. The fun just never slows down.

Regardless...the time alone, talking with my sweetheart, worth it! I love that he still opens my door too!

#265 Reason I see the hand of Heavenly Father in my life...my sweet spouse! Grateful, so grateful for him! (By the way, he was the one that bathed our little boy for me, while I chatted with our sitter.)

Make it a great day! Only YOU can!

A Joyful Noise...

I am a mother...

Sometimes we MOTHERS forget the little noises like Laughter, Screaming, Screeching, and such are JOYFUL noises. We have a whole bag of "Shhhh" like they say in the Austin Powers movie (I know, I shamefully saw that). We keep a bottle of tylenol...or something similar. Or granolas...not that I am a total granola...keep a bottle of lavender oil...to soothe our heads from the pounding of the everyday life of children...on our temples. I don't live in a quiet house. But I am trying more often to sit back and enjoy the JOYFUL noises. You know the ones...like when a brother and sister are playing and laughing so hard the house rumbles. Or the baby is eating their first piece of chocolate and Squeals for more with absolute delight. The first loud giggles or the day the toddler discovers their voice....or better YET...their kazoo! Or EVEN better yet...DRUMS! At OUR house the piano is a joyful noise...but tell me how joyful you think it is to hear the SAME SONG...4000 times in one day??? OK a bit of an exageration, but not much. I will tell you though, when that SONG is played perfectly at their piano recital and you are proud as a peacock...suddenly the 4000 time piano headache melts away and is replaced with incomprehendable JOY! I KNOW THIS FIRST HAND! :)

So my goal this year, among the many goals I have been setting in trying to make a better me...is to LOVE the JOYFUL noises!

#266 Reason I see the hand of Heavenly Father in my life... He gives us a joyful noise!

Make it a great day! Only YOU can!

Darling #2's fantabulous day...

info coming in the morning...the day was so amazing I am exhausted!!!

Today was a wonderful day! We had some family in town. My son woke up to many birthday wishes. There was love, hugs, family, friends...there was Church services, lunch, Chicken Salad, watermelon, and a Ginormous Chocolate Birthday cake. Shared by Parents, Siblings, Grandparents, Aunties, Uncles, Cousins and Friends.

What a day!

And then it continued. We loaded up in cars and drove to one of our church buildings where our sweet 8 year old son had chosen to be baptized on his birthday (like his dad, cousins and some aunts and uncles had all done on THEIR 8th birthdays...nothing like keeping with old traditions). The feeling in the room was one of love. We were missing some faces we wish could have joined us. A lot more family was waiting at the building, but not all the family could be there...(they live all over the US). In all we had 94 people, the room was a little warm :)

My sweet son asked me to give a talk on baptism, and I was a little (well a lot) nervous, and tried to talk him into picking someone else...but he ASSURED me I would be just fine. I did feel the sweet spirit in the room and I believe even the loving support of my mom who is beyond the veil. I spoke of the importance of character and the kind of characteristics that help us come closer to our Heavenly Father, like Love, Kindness, Sincerity, Diligence...so many things that my sweet son has already developed. We are very pleased with him, and with his choices.

He was baptized, followed by him being confirmed and given the gift of the Holy Ghost. It was a sweet and beautiful day. And so full of LOVE!

But that is not all, no that is not all (in the words of Suess)...

We then jetted over to our darling daughter's piano recital. She had prepared for a year. Her music was perfect and beautiful. I loved it! I loved being there and feeling of the peace that music brings into our lives. I love her and we were again so pleased with the choice of one of our children to be consistent, and to practice so she could use her talents and bless us all. She played all the music after her brother was baptized while we waited for him to get dressed. It was awesome!

So all in all...Phenomenal day! You know those perfect, busy, wonderful days that the very best memories are made from.

#267 Reason I see the hand of Heavenly Father in my life...That overwhelming, in my heart, joyful feeling. Oh how I love it. I felt his love yesterday, again, and again and again!

Make it a great day! Only YOU can!

The Flag...

Today my family played a little game in the car on our way home from dinner. We counted flags. American Flags more specifically. We started at one end of town and as we drove across town I was surprised to see how few flags there were. Do you remember when 9-11 hit? Do you remember what this country looked like? There were flags in front of every building. There were flags hooked to cars and from antennas.

I am ashamed to confess we are among the majority that were not honoring our country, that were not honor our flag and the men and women that daily stand for our freedoms, fight for our freedoms, sacrifice for our freedoms. We were not honoring those who lost loved ones that infamous day, or all the fallen loved ones ever before or ever since that battle to keep us free. I confess we WERE among those in the majority, NOT Flying a flag. But my good husband remedied that today and I thank him for his patriotism and his desire to fly the flag. It is beautiful, waving in front of our home. So I CHALLENGE you...Do you have a flag? Do you fly it? Do you? If you don't change that. Stand for the freedoms you enjoy. Honor those that sacrifice to keep us free.

#268 Reason I see the hand of Heavenly Father in my life...Freedom...it don't come free!

Make it a great day! Only YOU can!

The Real McCoy...

There was something on Yahoo today about Milli Vanilli...you know the EXPOSED as lip syncing wonders :) and that got me thinking about Vanilla...Vanilli...led to Vanilla. Then I contemplated REAL Vanilla compared to imitation Vanilla. I have always used the real stuff. WHY? Because my mom taught me it was better. My amazing CHEF of a friend, EP was reminding me of this truth the other day when she gave me tips to doctor up a store box cake to make it taste almost homemade...of course if I could drive to EP's house daily then I wouldn't need this...but the 75 minute drive necessitates me needing a fix inbetween visits ;)

Anyway...all this Vanilla got me thinking about people.

Are you the real deal?

Do your insides and your outsides match? (Now I am not talking about when you look in the mirror and you feel 18 but look...well...NOT 18). I mean the inner spirit and the outer actions. Are you in harmony with you? Or are you using cheap imitation vanilla? It is something to think about! We all do it from time to time. But we sell ourselves off cheaply if we aren't true to ourselves and to others...If we don't offer The REAL McCoy, the REAL Vanilla...we are selling ourselves short. So be the REAL DEAL! God made you, and HE LOVES YOU! You are His Child! I love my friends, but the ones I am closest too, I can be the REAL McCoy around, and visa versa!

#269 Reason I see the hand of Heavenly Father in my life: He helps me to be the Real McCoy!

Make it a great day! Only YOU can!

PS. Happy Birthday Grandpa B...I LOVE YOU, I MISS YOU! Wish you were still here to give a birthday hug too!

Family...Isn't it about time?

Tonight one of my brothers came into town with a niece and nephew. I have another brother and his family coming, grandparents are coming, aunts and uncles...and we are celebrating my son's 8th birthday and also he has chosen to be baptized on his birthday. It will be quite an eventful and wonderful weekend.

The great and the sad events of our lives bring those we love together. But it is the moments, the time, the love that binds us. The events are just a catalyst...but the hugs and the affection, the listening ear, the tender moments and the hours of rehearsed memories...that is what connects us eternally.

My brother and I talked until 11pm. We didn't want to stop talking but his son was very tired. His daughter is staying the night and still in my daughter's room giggling, and coloring/drawing together. I love the joy that family brings. Most of my family are spread all over the country...but when I get to hug them in person, it is a great blessing!

#270 Reason I see the hand of Heavenly Father in my life...FAMILY...isn't it about TIME!

Make it a great day! Only YOU can!

Kids...

My friend wrote and asked me to send her at least 20 descriptive words about my oldest children. She is making something for their birthdays. When I did this activity it really made me appreciate them. I highly recommend it...for your children, or siblings, or friends, parents, spouses...anyone you love and want to appreciate more...

Darling Daughter: Love, sweet, beautiful, smart, creative, funny, sensitive, kind, inspiring, wise, spiritual, listener, courageous, strong, talented, loyal, honest, true, happy, artistic, imaginative, LaLe Darling Son#1: Strong, Honest, Faithful, happy, funny, tricky, silly, smart, mathmatical, determined, reliable, sensitive, loving, teachable, interesting, sincere, spiritual, Constant, Unwavering, Diligent, Energetic Darling Son#2: Adventurous, funny, happy, playful, determined, energetic, delight, loving, persistent, active, warrior, strong, true, silly, smart, athletic, tenacious, fast, fierce, spunky Darling Son#3: Loving, cuddler, kind, gentle, sweet, silly, fun, friendly, devoted, loyal, listener, hugger, sensitive, fearless, stalwart, tough, energetic, cute, compassionate, tender Darling Son#4: Rough, tumbly, silly, smiles, giggles, sign language, laughter, hugs, kisses, sweet, kind, compassionate, affectionate, tender, tough, strong, adventurous, brave, courageous, sturdy Darling Husband (last but not least): Loyal, a pleaser, hard worker, honest, kind, funny, silly, childlike, happy, strong, skilled, listener, friend, devoted, fearless, brave, forgiving, true, stalwart, fun #271 Reason I see the hand of Heavenly Father in my life...The more I express appreciation to him, or those I love...the more blessed I feel. Have an attitude of Gratitude. I feel his blessings when I do. Make it a great day! Only YOU can! D.L...Thank you!!! WOW...I am glad you asked me to do this. It made me think, and made me appreciate my children more! Thanks too for the blog entry inspiration!!!

Soul Surfer...Be STRONG and of GOOD COURAGE...

Tonight I had a date with my husband. That is always fun. He hates movies so we rarely go to the movies. But he was feeling a little guilty for not doing things I like so he looked up the current movies and selected the one he thought I would like the best. I happened to not want to see that movie so we went for 2nd choice...but it definitely wins first place in my book!

Soul Surfer is about courage, trust in God, and faith. Bad things happen to good people, I say it all the time. And it is true. I don't even have to look past yesterday. Just Yesterday my good friend that I grew up with, one of my brother's best friends, past away while waiting for a kidney transplant. He was a giant of a man, and a big teddy bear. I will miss him. Bad things happen to good people. If that was the end of the story, life would basically suck. But that is not the end. And even in sorrow and tragedy, God finds ways to bring comfort, love and purpose to those around us if we seek for how we can lift others. If we have lost someone, we can reach to those who have lost someone. In this movie what the main character lost is not nearly as important as what she found. She found that with God, nothing is impossible. I for one, get down on myself. And the first year without my mom I was pretty useless. But I did not want that to be the legacy she left me...so now I have a voice and I am going to use it. I think she would be proud. I often hope she gets a glimpse of this blog. Thank you Bethany Hamilton for being strong, having courage, and trusting GOD! You are an inspiration and an example. So I highly recommend this...Two Thumbs up!!! Way up...Hang 10~ If you were already going to see this...don't even watch the trailer...I think it gives too much away. But if you are on the wall...trying to make the decision...go ahead and watch the trailer...then GO WATCH THE MOVIE! Well worth your time! And money!!

#272 Reason I see the hand of Heavenly Father in my life...Even when we feel like giving up, He never gives up on us!

Make it a great day! Only YOU can!

It is Done...Well Almost...

Several more hours to put final touches and safety features on the jungle playset. I do LOVE Cedar Works...but it was a lot of WORK!

We purchased a playset from them nearly 7 years ago. That set had some rot at the bottom that should not have occurred and was under warranty. We weren't sure they would willing help us. But they were right on it and actually sent out a new playset. In a world where so many people do not keep their word, I was extremely pleased with this company. They stood by their warranty, their promise, they did not make excuses or try to hide from responsibility. There are lessons in that for all of us.

Today my children informed me I need to spend more time with them. I have committed to try and stay away from the computer until their bedtime 8pm...they have committed to go to bed on time. Out of the mouths of babes...they are always teaching me. We had a great time playing in the front yard tonight.

#273 Reason I see the hand of Heavenly Father in my life...these amazing children he gave me that teach me daily.

Make it a great day! Only YOU can!

Sweet Sundays...

Today was such a beautiful and sweet Sabbath. But one thing in particular stood out. During the Relief Society meeting (the hour the women meet in my congregation), a sweet sister that I love gave the lesson. It was all about finding Joy in the Journey, Living after the manner of Happiness, and having an attitude of Gratitude. Her lesson was a direct answer to my prayers. I am very happy, and I have a very good life. But I am known for letting little things GET ME DOWN. It is ridiculous really to give things and even other people that kind of power, but I confess I have done that. Well, this good sister came so well prepared with talks and quotes and scriptures all about how Heavenly Father WANTS US TO BE HAPPY! Life happens, and crap happens, and death happens. But NONE of those things are the end. There is an old song I grew up singing at girls camp. The words go like this:

I'm the one that writes my own story.

I decide the person I'll be.

What goes in the plot

and what does not

is pretty much up to me.

And just incase

I need to erase

it was figured out before.

A thing called repentance

can wipe out a sentence,

a page or a chapter, or more.

Everyone that writes their own story

now and then will make some mistakes,

but give it some care.

They needn't stay there

and this is all that it takes.

You must know that you've done wrong

and so you feel bad and then...

Don't try to hide it, do try to right it,

and vow you won't do it again.

This book of mine is very important

and so someone is waiting right there.

To help with my story,

he's been there before me.

And always as close as a prayer.

We will write each day and night

and do it well and faithfully.

A wonderful story of sadness and glory,

it's writen by Jesus and Me.

(By Lex de Azevedo)

We all make mistakes, we all have bad days, we all have weaknesses that we could improve upon. But the main thing is ARE WE TRYING? TRY. Get up and do your best. I am going to do better to live after the manner of happiness even on the bad days when life doesn't dish me just what I was hoping for. That is what I learned today in my class. The lesson was a direct answer to my prayers. I am grateful for prayers and the answers that come. And like the Who's in Dr. Seuss' Whoville...I will not let my circumstances determine my inner joy!'

#274 Reason I see the hand of Heavenly Father in my life...direct answers to my prayers.

Make it a great day! Only YOU can!

Barbie Clothes...

One of my favorite memories is a Christmas when my mom made me several barbie clothes. I think it was so special to me because she HATED sewing. But was willing to make the sacrifice to do something she thought I would love. I miss her.

Tonight I made a little barbie skirt for my little girl. You would have thought I just gave her the world from her reaction. So sweet. I love her.

#275 Reason I see the hand of Heavenly Father in my life...He makes ordinary things feel extraordinary!

Make it a great day! Only YOU can!

Friendship...

This week has been so wonderful. I have had time either on the phone or in person with four of my wonderful friends. Each one is unique and different. Each with their own strengths. Each has taught me life lessons and blessed my life in many ways. They are all very different in some ways but something is the same about all of them. They love me, they care for my spirit, they nurture my soul and I love each of them. When we grow up we are lucky to have one or two "best friends". I was blessed with three best friends in high school. When I was first married my life revolved around my husband (that isn't a bad thing), but women need other women in their lives. And there was something missing. My sweet husband instituted a girls night out for me and a couple friends. That was a great blessing. I have abandoned that "Best Friend" title for a more fitting title for these great women in my life. "Best" would imply one and I have gratefully been blessed by the Lord with more than one Great woman in my life. I call these SPECIAL women my "TRUE FRIENDS". A true friend loves you where you are, encourages growth, strengthens you, comforts you and laughs and cries with you. I am thankful for the TRUE FRIENDS in my life. I hope you know whom you are! I hope I express my appreciation to you personally in ways that make you KNOW that you are special to me! Thank you. My cup runneth over!

#276 Reason I see the hand of Heavenly Father in my life...TRUE FRIENDS!

Make it a great day! Only YOU can!

Playsets...

Short post...Husbands and Wives should not put playsets together. That is why God created handymen...to save spouses the frustration!

#277 Reason I see the hand of Heavenly Father in my life...even after 10 hours of frustration over two days of putting a playset together, we are still madly in love. That is God's handywork! ;)

Make it a great day! Only YOU can!

Strawberry Shortcake...

No...not that cute little cartoon character...the actual, edible strawberry shortcake.

Today I packed up my 5 children and we headed to see my dear friend. She cooks from scratch and YUM!!! My mouth is watering thinking about it. When I told her how much I missed my mother's German Chocolate Cake for birthdays...she made THE BOMB...German Chocolate Cupcakes. Her cookies will ruin you...you will never want a store boughten cookie again. She is probably laughing reading this...and she knows it is true. She offered her son a store bought cookie and he threw it back. She is fabulous and I LOVE HER.

But this post isn't just about her cooking or even Shortcake. Last week I made my first attempt at Shortcake. It was lacking, I admit. My darling husband made a comment about his mother's shortcake (that he loves)...which no offense to her, isn't my favorite. I could have cried, that might have been my reaction 10 years ago. But instead I wrote my friend and said, "HELP! I need to make THE BOMB Shortcake!" She went to work helping me figure this out. He is testing her creation as I write this. He isn't a sweets eater, but I can hear him scraping the bowl...so that is a good sign. But the thing that touched me the most about this whole shortcake business is that my friend "got it". She didn't just take this for the face value shortcake recipe search. She got that I needed it to be mine, not my mother's or his mother's, but something I could own and do that he would love. So she offered some busy mother of five shortcuts for me. I am blessed with a group of very wonderful friends. I thank Heavenly Father for these loving and strong women He has put in my life. I am grateful she is one of them. Thank you!!! You know who you are! I think you are the best!

#278 Reason I see the hand of Heavenly Father in my life...Friends that "get" you. That is the best kind of friend.

Make it a great day! Only YOU can!

Sermon in a Sentence...

Sometimes you listen to a whole sermon and only take away a sentence...

Sometimes you listen to a sentence and in it find a whole sermon...

Today my dad posted a quote from a TV show he watches. Ironic, I know with all the TV talk this week. But the quote was great: Stuart Chase said, "For those who believe, no proof is necessary. For those who don't believe, no proof is possible."

Those who follow my blog know that a few months ago my faith and intentions were questioned. It stung because it came from someone that I had been friends with for over 20 years. But when I read this quote today immediately I thought of that situation. There are things in life that are true. Someone saying something isn't true...does not make it so. Just like saying a lemon is an orange does not make it sweet. And saying an orange is a lemon does not make it worthy of good lemonade.

One of my favorite quotes comes from a movie "City of Angels"... "Some things are true whether you believe them or not."

I have great faith. I have seen the hand of Heavenly Father and His Beloved Son, Jesus Christ work miracles in my life and the lives of people I love. But arguing with someone that I am a Christian, when they think I am not...is truly fruitless. Like the quote my dad shared this morning...Those who know me, know what I believe. Those who don't believe that I am Christian, there is no amount of words to convince them. I guess one day I will stand before the Lord...and really, isn't it up to HIM to decide ;) I know some people who have a completely different belief system altogether...who act more Christlike...than some people that proclaim to be following him. So I think it is safest to subscribe to that old addage in the scriptures... He who is without sin, cast the first stone. I know I won't be casting any.

#278 Reason I see the hand of Heavenly Father in my life...When someone or something gets me down...I feel strength, support and help from above. Sometimes I think I just can't make it through a trial, but then I cling to a piece of hope and it carries me through the rough and even the very rough spots. I am grateful for that help.

Make it a great day! Only YOU can!

Soap Free Part 2

So this whole Soap Opera thing has got me thinking...

Can you remember a TV show that ended happily? I will name a few of my favorites:

Lost...what do I even say about it? I am still mad...and there are at least 100 unresolved issues!

Moonlighting...season after season of love hate relationships...no really good ending.

Remington Steele...Ok...I will give it to them, that one ended with them finally together after several seasons.

And for all you out there that watch Castle...Beckett and Castle are NEVER going to get married and live happily ever after.

I haven't given up on TV completely. Lately the children and I have been enjoying old shows like Bewitched, Little House on the Prairie and Pollyanna and Sound of Music.

Just remember unlike the movies and TV that are scripted by writers for ratings...

YOU and I are in control of our future. We choose the paths that lead to potential happiness and though others around us can influence our level of happiness, they can not truly rob it from us, unless we let them. Happiness is within and it is an individual choice. It can't be bought or sold. No shopping binge will find it. Often when we scurry around looking for "it", then it eludes us. But if you sit very still and be your best you, you will start to recognize happiness all around you. In the people that love you, in the blessings that surround you, even in the trials that strengthen you. I am grateful that no writer of tales determines my happiness. I wouldn't want to wait for years to kiss my sweetheart.

#279 Reason I see the hand of Heavenly Father in my life...Happiness! I have found it...simply by looking all around me.

Make it a great day! Only YOU can!

***UPDATE...My dad reminded me of some shows we used to watch that were value centered and that we really enjoyed. ( Cosby, Everwood, Hart to Hart, Touched by an Angel, Star Trek, Pretender...and may I add: Waltons, Quincy, Highway to Heaven...all these were value centered) I want to emphasize that I am NOT saying TV is bad. I am however saying it doesn't represent REAL life and your life has the potential to be SO MUCH MORE than some of the train wrecks I have seen on Television. And much of that potential and momentum is determined by YOU and what YOU do with YOUR life. Remember...Make it a great day...only YOU can! ;)

Soap Free...

Yesterday in the line to check out at the grocery store my eyes landed on one of the many magazines that line the racks before you can escape the grocery store. You know the ones, right next to the candy at infant to 12 year old children eye level. The "rag" mag caught my eyes because it said "Bo and Hope finally get happiness..." or something to that effect. And I am ashamed to admit that I knew exactly whom they were speaking of.

This "rag" mag thought wrapped itself around my brain as I got ready this morning to watch another series of uplifting talks broadcast worldwide by my church about the importance of God, Jesus Christ, families and HAPPINESS. And as I thought of the promise the magazine assured for Bo and Hope I had to chuckle. Why? Because there is NO way the network will allow them one moment of happiness, let alone happiness for "the rest of their lives".

Lets go back a couple of decades. I used to be a soap addict...not the wash your body kind of soap...but SOAP OPERAS. I remember even taping them so I could watch them after school my junior and senior year. I actually can remember all the way back to being a little child when "Hope and Bo" were tragically separated...and then got back together...only to be separated and reunited a couple dozen more times. (Maybe I exagerate a little...but not much.) I once had a friend say that if you stop watching soaps and start again 10 years later you will be able to pick up on everything in a day or two. And after seeing that magazine last night I ask myself...WHY? And this is the answer I have come up with. The network doesn't want to pour money into portraying any happy marriages? Why would they? Where would that get them? No they prey on women and paint them as vixens or the wicked witch. They are not real life...but really they are not even the movies. At least the movies provide a temporary escape. They are like a black hole that sucks you in and takes you deeper and deeper, with no hope of reality or happiness.

My life is not like that. I don't have any drug lords in my family. No one has kidnapped my spouse and brainwashed them into believing they are something else, or replaced them with a mercenary. I don't have any relatives that have slept with another relative to trap another relative into marrying them. Or any family members that pretended to be dead 20 years, or got lost at sea...None of these. So I wonder what the appeal is? When I was 17 the appeal was that I thought "Steve" on Days of our Lives was gorgeous. (He is old now...one thing that they can not stop in TV world is aging...well they can for a few years, but facelifts fall). In college I started to feel like this might actually be smut I was watching (Duh! No kidding!!!) and by the time I was pregnant with my 1st child I had a friend tell me she was "soap free" for 15 years (or something like that). I remember thinking EWWW...why would you tell someone that! Until she went on to explain that she was Soap Opera FREE...NOT soap free. I was relieved and challenged by this thought.

I am grateful to say that I too am SOAP FREE! And to see the magazine yesterday, I really haven't missed anything. They are still promising happiness for the same players of that stupid game (NOT LIFE...because it, as we just discussed, doesn't remotely resemble real life)...and they are STILL NOT DELIVERING HAPPINESS!

So I think I will stick with my happy life. I will play games with my children. I will go to the park with them. I will pitch baseballs and run, laugh and have a great time. I will pack sandwiches (the same ones for 11 years) for my husband, who is so heroic and noble that he takes a lunch to save us a few bucks. AND THERE WILL BE NO PRODUCT PLACEMENT at my house. I am so grateful for my wonderful life. I wish this happiness for everyone that doesn't have it yet. And I am grateful for the friends who share in it and buoy me up, keep me afloat! Don't get me wrong...there are days when both my darling husband and I reach our limit...thankfully not the same days (usually)...but there is nothing dramatic or "soap opera" like about that. That is just the normalness of life. And I love it. The spice of an occasional disagreement, makes for a chance to forgive, grow and love even deeper. Something NO SOAP ever offers!

So if you haven't already, take the plunge...be soap free. And if you have done that, take it one step further. Are the things you watch lifting your spirit and your relationships? It is always good introspection to give yourself an honest overlook! May this challenge help you grow. 10 years and counting, thanks to my friend, I have grown a lot!

#280 reason I see the hand of Heavenly Father in my life...The growth I have experienced since he gave me the opportunity to be a mother is Phenomenal...and I can only explain that growth by giving Him recognition and thanks.

Make it a great day! Only YOU can!

200!!! Woo Hoo!

In celebration of my 200th post I am going to rent a chick flick and hang out with some of my sisters! For those of you who read my blog. I know we are down to a couple now ;) that is ok, this is free therapy and I will continue to write and hope it touches someone. Anyway, for those of you who read my blog I also wanted to share about my wonderful morning.

The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints has a General Conference Broadcast that is held Semi Annually. This is always the first Saturday and Sunday of April and October. There messages of love, hope, inspiration, and peace are shared. Listening and following these messages for most of my life (since I can remember actually) has helped me to be Christ centered and have an attitude of gratitude and charity. So if you get bored, or are lonely, or have a need, I am sure there is a talk here for you. Just wanted to share for anyone interested.

For Conference Talks...CLICK HERE :)

Have a blessed day! #281 Reason I see the hand of Heavenly Father in my life...My wonderful Sisters in law...I write a lot about the sisters I grew up with. But the sisters I scored when I married into my husband's family are equally fabulous and such a blessing. Thank HEAVEN for sisters!!!

Make it a great day! Only YOU can!

April Fool's Day...

Well I actually got my April Fools' joke in early this year. I reposted a little ditty that my friend had posted about "expecting". For those that didn't read to the bottom about the hot weather we were expecting...they assumed that the "expecting" was ME...expecting that I was pregnant. Ok, that was the whole point of my status update, I admit it. But I did misjudge when I assumed that all people read the ENTIRE status update before commenting. I received a variety of responses including floods of congratulations, all the way to threats from close friends and family that did not appreciate hearing about my pending pregnancy on facebook, and appreciated it even less when they found out it was a joke. Someone even said I should have saved it for today. The day for those kinds of things! Well, I am not expecting... actually I am expecting warm weather again, but I am not expecting any pitter patter of little feet at home, besides the ten little feet that belong to the five little children I already have, and all the feet that belong to all their friends that come to play.

I was trying to think of some April Fools jokes from years past. But truly I am pulling a blank. In junior high I think my friend "monkey"...his nickname...said your shoes were untied and I looked (naturally)...only to remember as he shouted "April Fools" that I had donned slip ons that morning. I think the worst April Fools would be waking up to live the same day over and over...but they decided to title that nightmare "Ground Hog's Day"...one of my favorite movies. I love Bill Murray. So for all you pranksters...anyone have a great April Fools joke you would like to share. We are all ears.

#282 Reason I see the hand of Heavenly Father in my life...sense of humor...He has to have one, he made all of us ;)

Make it a great day! Only YOU can!